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Great Expectations

As a teenager and young adult
I lacked patience. Big Time!!!
As I matured, parenthood forced me
to cultivate some along the way.
As I grew my business and discovered
projections often fell short,
I perfected the ‘fine art’
of having a ‘Plan B’.
As my children grew,
I later learned
a ‘Plan C, D, E, F and G’
were necessary too!

As a firstborn,
people-pleasing, over-achiever,
the expectations I placed on myself
were often outrageous
but even worse,
I held others to those standards as well. Result? Constant disappointment.
No one wins!

Over time I’ve learned
to loosen the grip on perfection
I tenaciously clung to
in an effort be more realistic
and accepting of others.
In essence,
if I wanted to be accepted for who I am,
I needed to learn
to accept others the way they are.

Say hello to Ann,
one of our loyal followers.
Her following post
shares a small story
on this very subject
and has affirmed within me
that we are never too old
to learn something new.
Have a read and see if you agree.
Enjoy! 🌷

October 23 2016 (Showcase Reblog)

Muddling Through My Middle Age

Several years ago, I read an article in which the wife of a long-married couple was asked what she thought was key to her happy marriage and she answered, “I learned early on to lower my expectations.”  Personally, I sort of wondered just how much longer her happy marriage was going to last after her husband read that article.  And I thought that she was being a bit harsh, or had perhaps married a man who was simply not right for her.   But lately, I’ve come to believe that if I put her words into the context of simple human relationships, she might have been much more perceptive than I realized.

The older I get, the more I think that most of the conflicts we have with other people stem from the simple fact that they don’t live up to our expectations.  They don’t act the way we think they…

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10 thoughts on “Great Expectations”

  1. Your Post ‘Great Expectations’ which you say of the Plans A B C D E F s and so on shall fall short of the total number of alphabets that are there 26 in numbers in the English language. It is not only a state of yours but in general it is of all of us. We go on planning and we feel short of the plans we made.
    In the P.S. that has been mentioned :

    “The older I get, the more I think that most of the conflicts we have with other people stem from the simple fact that they don’t live up to our expectations. They don’t act the way we think they…”

    I have mentioned about that as a partner in life or any person who has come across us.

    I hope you have been cleared about the comment. It is a very general fact we face in this world. There nothing that you have to take it personal or that it was to hurt anybody.
    Regards,
    Shiva

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    1. Ahhh, thanks for explaining!☺
      I understand better what you meant.

      Yes you are correct. We can make all the answers we want by life has a mind of its own. 😁 All we can do is learn as we go.

      Thanks for your great feedback.
      Hope you’re having a great day. 🌷

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      1. After explaining to you on the comment I went to bed. Getting up to read your reply I was rather very happy you understood and have taken it into good spirits.
        My Monday starts now with a great week ahead.
        Thanks
        Shiva
        😃🏃👍👌💓🙏

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      2. Happy Monday to you.
        I’m always open to the opinions of others. If I don’t understand something I’ll ask for further clarification. Thanks for explaining. Thanks for chatting! ☺ 🌷

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      3. It is your greatness and gratefulness that you express your short of understanding. I do appreciate it. Normally I do not chat, but when it comes to some important discussions I do to clear the matters.
        Thankyou,
        Shiva
        🙂

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